a french guy and american girl..do you know?

Ok so I live in the US. I am 21 yrs old. I met a french guy where I work when he came to the US. It was his first time here. He is 24 yrs old. When he met me the first night he tried asking me out to drink and eat pizza within the first 10 mins of seeing me. So we get on the computer I pull up the internet and find a translate website. We start chatting. He is so sweet saying super nice things. So we are trying to have a conversation and doing pretty well for the language barrier.. I'm getting off work and we set a date to go for qa walk on the beach a few days later. So the next day at work was basically the same except he came over and handed me a present.. It was a toy for my kitty. I thought it was so sweet because I adore my cat, and we talked about our pets. So we talk more later basically all the same he is making sure we are hanging out when planned. So on the night of the walk I show up at my work and he is waiting for me and he pulls out a piece of paper.. I had worked that morning at 7:30am he had gotten on the computer at 5am to write down a few things he wanted to say to me..(I don't speak french but love it) among the few things were.. Its nice to meet you I hope kitty liked the toy and something about I love you. So we get to walkin on the beach and such and we are having a blast he learned how to say I'm very happy from the computer also.. He said that a lot we smiled and giggled non stop. So about an hour in we started holding hands.. He is such a gentleman and so polite great manners. About 2 hrs in it got to a point where we stopped looked at the stars then looked at each other we smiled and I thought he was leaning in to kiss me so I go to kiss him and he stopped me in the sweetest way someone could ever stop you from kissing it was so gentle then he kissed me on the cheek. Its was the sweetest kiss it was so gentle.. Very different. So about 20-30mins later he stops walking pulls me to him and kisses me for real. It was amazing. And for the next 2-3 hours we are walking laughing smiling looking at each other every 2 seconds and kissing every couple of minutes. Oh to get to the sad part.. He is going back home the next morning..so that was a few weeks ago and we e mail each other back and forth at least 3 times a day. So here is what I want to know.. He mentioned moving here.. He has 2 children ..he is looking for a new place to live in france..and he and the mother of the children split 2 months before he met me but he always says I love you and big kisses in french through the e mail. He tells me he misses me and so on.. All the good sweet things.. What I want to know is what does this mean? He says he isn't married to her but you can never be sure.. What would you do in this situation? Is he for real? Or is it all fake?
-also there has been nothing further than kissing-
Anyone who can help would be awesome... Preferably someone who knows about french guys and their behavior.. Thank you!! Zara

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Hi zara, I just read what

Hi zara,

I just read what u've written. I'm French but I don't think it bother because, acording to me, the problem doesn't come from the guy's nationality u've met few times ago...

As you know, life is often complicated because we have a lot of choice to make. And love ones are probably the most difficult. Moreover, as he told you his situation, I guess he must be trusty-worthy otherwise he would have cheated on you about his relationship status....
But that's just my opinion and I can be wrong :).

I hope this answer will help you,

Alexandre

PS: sorry for my english, I'm not very good at it.

As with any person from any

As with any person from any foreign country, get to know him better. I knew a guy who dated a woman from Germany. It turned out she just wanted citizenship, then took him to the cleaners, took his house, took his car, even his DOG, and moved her HUSBAND and children over there. They are all now enjoying his life and he is working 2x as hard to pay all that stuff and try to live. Pretty sad. Its not always the case, but best to be cautious. Find out more about him, if you're serious. Have a background and information check done on him. It may be a little pricey, but better safe than sorry. Also if you do let him move in with you, just leave only your name on the lease and don't rush into getting married or anything. The fact he has 2 kids and is looking to move out of his country (especially if he's taking them) is pretty suspicious, coupled with the fact of how fast he wants to move...many European cultures still favor the longer courtships/dating. Just be careful, protect yourself and don't put his name on anything you sign for...or your bank account!

Frenchman wants to come to live w/you in the US

Let him come over if his green card is up to date and his visa is up to date and he can find legal work. Then, if you fall in love and want to marry, check the Dept. of State's website for what is the process for obtaining legal status for foreigners if you marry. It's time consuming and takes a year and requires usually that the foreigner return home to begin the process. If he's here illegally, don't bother getting involved. You can't marry an illegal alien and turn them into a one with a legal status. Doesn't work that way. He can still be deported. Without a visa, he won't get a decent job. Does he have a university degree? If he says "college", that's European for high school. Does he have his bac or high school degree? Did he attend a uni or university or universite' and get a degree? Did he attend vocational school and get a degree? You really need to find out more. I know this was posted last year but maybe my advice will still help.